Very Caliente

The Confidence Muscle - Confianza, Discipline & Showing Up

Episode Summary

Pablo and Jennie go solo for a hosts-only round on confianza. Why so many people sit on big dreams waiting for confidence that never magically arrives. Where their own confidence really came from, why imposter syndrome has become the new crutch, and what to do instead. Pablo on switching the definition of nerves so the same body sensation becomes fuel. Jennie on flipping the spotlight off yourself and onto the person you're there to help. Both on confidence as a muscle: do the thing you said you'd do, surround yourself with people from every walk of life, learn languages, never stay in one box. And the closer: live present, accept the movie you're in, dream big anyway.

Episode Notes

Very Caliente

Hosts: Pablo Alsina & Jennie López

EP 026 - The Confidence Muscle - Confianza, Discipline & Showing Up

Summary

Pablo and Jennie go solo for a hosts-only round on confianza. Why so many people sit on big dreams waiting for confidence that never magically arrives. Where their own confidence really came from, why imposter syndrome has become the new crutch, and what to do instead. Pablo on switching the definition of nerves so the same body sensation becomes fuel. Jennie on flipping the spotlight off yourself and onto the person you're there to help. Both on confidence as a muscle: do the thing you said you'd do, surround yourself with people from every walk of life, learn languages, never stay in one box. And the closer: live present, accept the movie you're in, dream big anyway.

Main Topics

• Confianza as the missing ingredient most people are waiting on
• Why splitting men and women on confidence is the wrong frame
• The narrative trap of imposter syndrome
• Education and exposure as the foundation of confidence
• Switching nerves into positive energy
• Taking the spotlight off yourself when you speak
• Confidence as a muscle built through follow-through
• Procrastination as the killer of motivation and confidence
• Beginner's mindset and doing new things at any age
• Confidence in who you are over copying somebody else
• Parenting: support plus honest critique
• Living present and accepting the movie you're in

Intriguing Quotes

"Procrastination is what kills motivation, it kills energy, and at 1000% kills your confidence." – Pablo Alsina

"As soon as I changed the spotlight off me and onto the person I am there to help, the nerves flow into really good positive energy." – Jennie López

"The body does not know I am nervous, I am happy, I am excited. It just knows sensations." – Pablo Alsina

"Do the difficult thing. Not because you did the difficult thing, but because of the person you become and the impact you have." – Jennie López

"If you are yourself, nobody is you." – Pablo Alsina

Key Moments

• [00:00] - Welcome and the topic of confianza
• [02:04] - Why splitting men and women on confidence is the wrong frame
• [03:35] - Imposter syndrome as the new crutch
• [04:15] - Education as the foundation of confidence
• [05:31] - Learning from every culture and every walk of life
• [08:15] - Switching the definition of nerves into positive energy
• [09:35] - Jennie's speaker tip: take the spotlight off yourself
• [10:46] - Confidence as a muscle built through follow-through
• [12:10] - Beginner's mindset and the modern dance class story
• [13:01] - Pablo on going bald at 18 and choosing confidence anyway
• [15:25] - Parenting confidence into your kids
• [18:33] - Life as a movie with peaks and valleys
• [22:23] - From World Series to Palm Springs weather and the Instagram message
• [23:20] - Do the difficult thing for the person you become

Notable Guests / Resources

• Pablo Alsina - Broadcaster, storyteller, and podcast host
• Jennie López - Speaker, author, and co-host of Very Caliente